The Power of the Space: Part One—Job Rejection

The Power of the Space: Part One—Job Rejection

Most people believe that life unfolds in a simple pattern:

Stimulus → Response

But in reality, there’s a vital step in between—a space. It’s in this space where your true power lies. This concept isn’t new; it has roots in ancient philosophies and modern psychology. For our purposes, let’s use this concept to navigate a common challenge in hiring and executive recruiting: job rejection.

The Stimulus

At some point, you may face the disappointment of not getting a job you really wanted. Hearing the words, “We went with another candidate,” is the stimulus.

The Response

What happens next is entirely up to you. The space between the rejection and your reaction is your opportunity for growth, learning, and redirection. This space is one of the few aspects of life you can truly control.

Navigating the Space

It’s okay to feel the emotions that come with rejection—disappointment, frustration, even anger. However, what you do within that space can influence how the situation unfolds and shape your future opportunities.

Even in high-pressure situations where a quick response is needed, you can train yourself to pause, breathe, and craft a response that serves your long-term goals.

Example: Handling Job Rejection

Imagine you receive a call:

“We’ve decided to move forward with another candidate.”

Your immediate thoughts may be racing with frustration or regret. However, keeping your emotions in check during this moment can pave the way for future opportunities.

Here’s a sample response you can use:

Verbal Response

“Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate all the time and effort you’ve put into this process. I’d be grateful for any feedback you or your team could share about my application or interview. If anything changes with the selected candidate or other opportunities arise, please don’t hesitate to reach out—I remain very interested.”

This response is professional, gracious, and keeps the door open for future possibilities.

Follow-Up After Time in the Space

Once you’ve given yourself time to process the rejection, consider sending a follow-up email to those you interviewed with. This demonstrates your professionalism and commitment to growth:

Sample Follow-Up Email:

Subject: Thank You and Feedback Request

Dear [Interviewer’s Name],

Thank you so much for the time you spent with me during the interview process. While I was disappointed not to be selected, I’m grateful for the opportunity to learn more about your incredible firm.

I am always striving to improve, and I would truly appreciate any feedback you could share regarding my interview or candidacy. Whether positive or constructive, it would be invaluable as I prepare for future opportunities.

Additionally, should anything change with your new hire or other opportunities arise within the firm, please know I remain enthusiastic and ready to contribute.

Thank you again for everything, and I look forward to hearing any insights you can share.

Warm regards,

[Your Name]

 

Conclusion

The space between a stimulus and response is where growth happens. In the face of job rejection, this space gives you the power to respond thoughtfully, maintain relationships, and leave a lasting impression.

Mastering this approach will not only help you handle rejection with grace but also strengthen your resilience and open doors to future opportunities.